Feeling Lost Doesn’t Mean You’re Gone: Trusting Every Phase of Your Soul's Journey

If you’ve been led astray into bad habits or negative beliefs, discombobulated in a growth period where two sides of you are pulling your arms, or hit with many challenges that you have never experienced before, you’ll likely witness yourself walking in a liminal space—a no man’s land, a dark oblivion where you don’t know your way…

The unknown takes you away from what you’re used to, leaving you in doubt of your recovery.

You are lost, and you want to be found.

In religious context, “being found” refers to the process of estrangement from God or the divine path and reconciling with faith. Similarly, we can parallel this theme with one’s own psychological process of becoming and actualizing. There is a period of disconnection with self—like a spiritual drought—and a return with greater embodiment than before.

 While many may associate being lost with living a bad lifestyle or being a bad person, the reality is far more nuanced. This phase of “being lost” can appear in many forms throughout different stages of life—often as part of an inner transformation, not just external crisis. It doesn’t always look drastic like addiction or rock-bottom moments. Sometimes, it’s subtle: like a woman beginning to notice her insecurities, questioning her beliefs about beauty, and choosing to unravel old conditioning so she can show up empowered in her sense of self.

Those moments where you're starting to shift and discover more of who you are..

I want to speak to that version of being lost—the one rooted in psycho-spiritual growth, self-love, and personal evolution. The kind where you’re doing inner work, discovering more of who you truly are, and cultivating acceptance in every layer of your being.

What does “finding” yourself mean to you?

For me, it feels like coming back to myself, getting my bearings, grounding in purpose, integrating more character, and restoring my pure essence.

As amazing as that completed search feels, there are parts of you that need to get lost and even be let go of. As the saying goes:

“Lose yourself to find yourself.”

There’s beauty in losing your way and feeling totally in the dark with no cues, clues, or clear direction. This is where you face your fears, tend to wounds, take ownership of suppressed parts of yourself, and shed all layers that don’t build you up to be who you are meant to be.

You start gaining awareness, identifying strengths as much as weaknesses, discovering what authenticity is for you, remembering your roots, building a foundation on pure truth. It’s a return home to your soul radiance.

It’s natural to get caught in panic when life throws you for a loop and you spiral into territory you have never charted before, but it is all an illusion that will bring you the contrast and complexity to embrace a version of yourself that is inherently worthy.

Take solace in knowing that you’re never really lost, because the core of who you are is always there and can never be stolen from you—your source nature inside will never be too corroded to guide you like a holy compass.

You have a destiny and a fate tailored to your unique soul, you will face inevitable events—but don’t let that scare you into a fixed perspective. There is potential to establish more of who you are. While these life situations and circumstances may seem beyond your control, you do have free will. Meaning: how you respond, your attitude to life, can shift your trajectory. 

You can use this time to evolve and you will when you are ready.

Along the spiral, you can unlock wisdom through your own gnosis. You’ll pick up information that inspires a sense of knowing. Intuitive insights will pop up like an elusive fairy godmother with a cryptic message that you have to figure out yourself. Can you open? Will you say “yes” and receive with curious abandon? 

Whatever you are going through, you will feel a supernatural force ushering you into surrender; And that is good. God’s path will take you where you need to go, and it’s not linear—it is here and there. Even in the chaotic twists and turns or desolate isolation, there is a sure bet you can rely on: All options, decisions, possibilities, and opportunities are surrounding you right now—and as overwhelming as that can sound, all you have to do is choose, and it will be right.

There is no wrong way when you listen to the whispers of your spirit.

Being lost is not failing—it’s sacred renewal. And being found isn’t the ultimate goal, because the experience of being lost and found all contribute to you establishing the foundation you need to be your fullest self.

You’ll realize that the point is connecting to that unshakeable part of yourself that balances between the two polarities—and that is your God-given anchor. It’s about claiming your sovereignty and trusting in who you are and the choices you make. To go within instead of out—beneath the surface of everyday life as you know it—and learn more of what it is to be a human being.

To say: I’m not sure of who I really am, what’s happening, or where I’m going… but I believe I will be okay, and that my soul can prosper from this... That is real confidence!

So, in the darkness when you’re shivering and hopeless, feel into the warmth of your heart. Open your eyes to the glowing light illuminating your view, and follow in the direction it beats.

Focus on releasing your grip to your old self. Let yourself “lose” and be lost. Take shelter in where you are at now, trust that place within, and when you are ready, move towards where you feel called—taking steps where it feels aligned. This is where you will find your authentic self.

Connection to your faith will carry you through. Sit with God, Goddess, Mother Earth, Nature, Source, the Stars, the Universe. Feel into that unseen pulse within all of existence. It lives and beats in your soul, encouraging you to keep going and live as best as you can in the moment. Every breath is an opportunity to reconnect to it.

Take this time to: check the lost and found—

• Ask yourself: "How do I feel lost?" Journal about this to explore deeper into what you need.

• Connect to your spiritual practice. Do whatever moves your soul and centers you.

• Get back to the basics—do the bare minimum— eat, hydrate, sleep, hygiene, and simple mental/spiritual/physical self-care.

• Pay attention to the signs, messages, intuitive thoughts, and feelings. These are breadcrumbs of guidance.

• Explore interests, new habits—dig into things you used to do. This will spark your creativity and motivate your soul.

• DEFINITELY follow what lights you up.

• Join a breathwork session to nurture in peace and connect to your intuition. In this space you will be able to nurture, orient in the present moment of where you are at in your life, and revitalize your sense of self.

You undoubtedly will get lost again at some point—maybe not as badly as the first time, or maybe even worse, depending on your path. But one thing you know for sure is that you are never really gone, and you can navigate this phase—maybe you'll even enjoy being lost as much as you love being found.

Sending all my love,

xoxo, Katie Ellis